A little while ago, I did a personal exercise where I asked three (unrelated) close friends to list three each of my greatest strengths and my weaknesses. Along with self-reflection, feedback is always a great tool for growth; if you are willing to hear what someone honestly has to say.
Interestingly they all listed one word – SELFLESS. Surprisingly, they all used the word to describe both my strength and my weakness. “Selfless often to your own detriment” was the exact quote that had me thinking.
Have you ever undertaken a little task like this? Why don’t you try it? If you are open, I would be interested in your results.
You can’t pour from an empty cup.
If you visit my website, the first quote you will see is “Adversity is a given. Courage is a choice”. Elizabeth Gilbert believes that everyone who ever changed their life or laid claim to their own destiny began by surrendering to two words : NOT THIS!
Alongside brutal memories and lifelong pains that are attached to a life changing experience I had, during the experience itself, I learnt of an important strength that I had. I remember the exact moment that I thought I was going to die and in an instant the words NOT THIS and NOT NOW played in my head. Whilst I was left physically and emotionally battered and bruised, I reappeared with both strength of mind and courage of soul. I was determined not to let this stop me from living life, from loving life. Triathlon continues to give me a new perspective of myself and a new lease on life.
Has your life ever gotten too busy? As you know, with my family, my business and triathlon, mine can be quite chaotic. I want to do so many things for so many people and I want to do them well, too – not just half-way. I want to help people and be there for my friends and family when they need me. There’s only one problem with that, though…. I’m just one person and there are only so many hours in the day. I can’t do everything, even though I am guilty of trying. When that happens, it leaves me feeling depleted. At that point, my cup is empty. Given my ability to look adversity in the eye and say NO, you would think this would come easy to me in everyday life, yet it has taken me a lot (of triathlon exhaustion) to not say “yes” so much.
To fill your cup means to replenish those stores of mental, emotional, and physical energy. It means that you need to stop and recharge. My body needs to recover so that I don’t get injured and my mind needs rest so that I can continue to provide great advice and support to my clients. This is where my friends are aiming when they tell me that by being selfless, I am not doing myself and my goals justice. What they are reminding me is that I can control who is my village. I need to take a step back sometimes and ensure that I am not emptying my cup to those who won’t choose to fill my cup up when they can.
Success is not final , failure is not fatal : it is the courage to continue that counts.
Meanwhile in Lycra
This week saw the last of my potential races for the year cancelled. The result was an instant two weeks of recovery courtesy of coach Mat. There is no benefit to the body to be in Ironman overload of 20 hours if it no longer fits into the overall time plan. This week I only had 6 hours of training and I have been buzzing, not knowing what to do with myself. I have to remind myself that it’s great to have big goals (Ironman) but a reality check (lockdowns) won’t hurt me. I believe that the hard work will pay off, even if I don’t get the chance to see it straight away – in our case 2022. I will spend some time trying to decide what racing looks like next year and then we can amend the annual training plan.
Livvy and I have also decided to spend October setting activity goals and exercising for a the #Move4dignity cause. Every dollar raised goes to Share the Dignity which supports women in Australia who are either homeless or at risk of becoming homeless. It’s exercise with a purpose, making a life-changing difference for those in need.
Back to life with heels on and dry hair
September was an amazing month for me. I had an abundance of people contact me and take up my offer to assist them free of charge. Helping people is why I went into business for myself, so my passion is in overdrive at the moment with the knowledge that so many people have trusted me with their stories and to help them through these not-so-great times.
I have been interviewed by an online a magazine and I also recorded a Podcast with Jules Brook of She’s The Boss which was a blast and I’m looking forward to sharing it with you when it was released. (I love how a business chat can lead to, “let’s catch up for a drink” haha).
In typical “Amanda” fashion, the highlight of my month was receiving an email from a client who had received their insurance renewal notice and was checking in with me. However, added to his email was “Not only do I need your advice on this stuff I need some push bike advice too. I figure you’re probably the best qualified person I know to offer both.” I love the relationships that I build over time with my clients.
I am missing presenting and educating at seminars so next month I am launching some “pilot” education sessions, Investment, Superannuation, Family Trusts and Financial Planning for Business.
Details can be found in my Instagram Bio @amanda_tri_mum or click on the links below
Please feel free to join my Facebook Group – Endurance Financial – Life & Lycra where you will find the links to my upcoming Education Sessions.
Email me or contact me through social channels if you would like to join or want to have a chat as to whether they would suit your situation.